Posts Tagged ‘Frame Of Mind’



Drug addiction is a problem that is not just self-destructive to an addict but also to his family and friends. Such is the magnitude of the problem that many who are afflicted are doomed to depths of despair. Things come to such a point that even people close to the addict give up on him because the addict only cares for drugs as the only means of existence. However, this does not mean the addict is having an irreparable condition. Things can certainly be fine, with determination and addiction

We all know that drug rehabilitation centers are the best way to treat substance abuse permanently. It is very important to make the addict realize that he has a problem that needs urgent attention. When he is sober or when he is in a frame of mind to hear you out, gently explain to him that drug addiction can be tormenting to his life, his career and his family. Let him know the expectations his family has from him and how his addiction can ruin all those aspirations. Once the addict acknowledges that he needs to be cured, show him how a rehabilitation center can be of tremendous amount of benefit to him.

One does not need to send the addict to a rehab center when the person has just started taking drugs. At that time, you can just take him to a doctor who can give medication to stop cravings. But when the addiction begins to develop, he definitely needs such kind of treatment. Rehab centers have various types of therapies that can be quite useful to the addict. Therapies like counseling, medication, group therapy, individual therapy can definitely make the person go into introspection and make him realize his folly and understand that it is better to leave drugs forever. Check for some good rehab centers at your area and find out how they treat people. Find out the recovery rate and check if the chances of addicts going into relapse mode are very minimal. Talk to recovered addicts and their families to find how well a particular rehab is. By helping your near and dear one to check into a drug rehab, you are saving his life for sure.



The 12 Steps as used by Alcoholics anonymous (AA) Narcotics anonymous (NA) Al-anon Cocaine anonymous (CA) Gamblers anonymous (GA) Emotions anonymous (EA) Sex and Love addicts (SALA) anonymous Co dependents anonymous (CODA). The twelve steps recovery program saved my life and brought some peace of mind into my life. As I write this I have been involved in 3 twelve step recovery fellowships and have been a member of alcoholics anonymous for 33 years. I have learnt a lot in that time from my sponsor and other wise people from all walks of life. I have taken “a bit of this and bit of that” from many sources of wisdom.

I want to share with you how my sponsor suggested how I do the twelve steps. When you look at the steps only one word changed. The “requirement for membership”. The rest of the steps are about building character (emotional muscle), getting rid of guilt, fear and resentment, making amends, and being able to look the world in the eye “to get a Teflon personality”. If you want to be “happy, joyous and free” then it is suggested you do the 12 steps in a way that takes courage. To see yourself as the problem and not the world. After doing the steps I learned that it was me not people or actions that were the problem, but my reaction. I soon learned that other people’s actions I can not do anything about!. But I can change my reactions.

If you are a person that is in an emotional turmoil then something has to change, it can’t be the past and it can’t be the future but we can change now. “The present is a result of the past and the future is a result of the present”.

Honesty, Open Mind ness, Willingness. Are a good frame of mind to be in before you start the 12 steps !

This is where we have to look at our behaviour, reactions, guilt’s, resentments, our fears. These are what rob us of our peace of mind!. Peace of mind sounds so good. Does it seem so far away?. Do you think, “Well mate, if you had my problems you would not have peace of mind either!”. Well you do have peace of mind, it is inside of you right now!. Right there, yes, right inside of you!. “No, I have not”, you may be thinking. Well it’s there!. Yes, honestly it is. But it may be covered in “dust” and that “dust” may be resentment, guilt, fear, self pity, living in the past, in the future, living in the guilty past. Blow that dust away and you have peace of mind!. In short “PRACTICE OPPOSITES”.

That is what the steps are about, learning to practice opposites. If you are unhappy now, then practice the opposite of “thinking”, “reactions”, “resentment”, “low self-esteem”, “guilt” etc. Just practice opposites and that is what The 12 steps is all about.

see http://www.the12steps.com

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